So a few things have changed in the last year. For one, I now live in Sarasota, Florida with my beautiful wife Terri...... Oh...did I forget to mention I'M MARRIED NOW! And that's what this post is about. I've been married for 6 months now, and I while it's only been a short amount of time, I wanted to share with you some of the things I've learned. So sit back, grab your spouse or significant other (even if you have to force them to read this with you) and learn from my mistakes.
Frustration
It's easy to get upset or frustrated when you're first married. You'd just moved in with another person. They have different tastes, opinions, and habits than you, and it's not easy getting used to them. That ugly Dollar Tree poster you want to hang on the wall (Sorry Honey!) may not be so appealing to your significant other. Maybe they chew really loudly, want to watch a different movie, or talk too much. My point is, at some point you're going to be annoyed by the person you vowed to love forever. And that's okay. It happens. My advice to you is don't hold it all in until you explode. Sit with them and talk to them about it in a calm gentle matter. Ask your husband/wife if there's anything about you that annoys them. If it's a woman, chances are she has a list, in alphabetical order, with dates and proof. Be honest with eachother. I fully believe there isn't anything you can't work out if you truly love one another.
God First Spouse Second
After God your wife/husband must come before anybody else. Before your friends, your siblings/parents, kids, yourself. Ephesians 5:31 says "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh." Your spouse is your partner for life. Until death do you part. Their needs must become a priority.
On the other side of that, God must come before them. Which, take it from me, is not an easy thing. As a husband, I tend to prioritize my wife before God. It's a daily struggle. But if you study God's word together, and worship God together, the closer you will both come to Him, and in turn you will grow closer to each other.
Strength
One of the biggest things I've learned about marriage is that sometimes it's two people taking turns being the strong one. When one is weak, the other is there to lend a comforting arm. Some days both of you are strong, and other days neither of you are. On those days you lean on God's strength, Who is always strong.
Be there for your spouse on the bad days. Wipe their tears, hold them, listen to them.
So those are a few of the things I've learned since being married. There's a lot more I've learned, and I'm sure I'll learn tons more in the years to come. Some things I probably will never learn (I am a guy). But I love my wife, and I love making her happy. I cannot wait to see what our years together bring!
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